Living Word Church International

Marriage Seminar — Week 1

Making marriage beautiful. Keeping marriage beautiful.

"Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts... and be thankful." — Colossians 3:15

The Secret

Understand and meet one another's emotional needs to a high standard, consistently.

Guiding Principles

  1. My spouse is motivated by his/her needs, not mine.
  2. The more needs I meet, the more influence I will have.
  3. The more influence I have, the better results I will get.

Questions for the Wife

Question 1

What are your rules for feeling love?

i.e. What needs to happen for you to experience "love" from your husband? Be as specific as possible.

Question 2

Think of a time when you felt really loved by your husband.

What happened? What was said? What words were used? Were there other people present? A holding of the hand? A certain look? Think back over the length of the relationship, perhaps early on — when were some times he really succeeded in making you sparkle?

Questions for the Husband

Question 1

What are your rules for feeling honour?

What needs to happen for you to experience "honour" from your wife? Be as specific as possible.

Question 2

Think of a time when you felt really honoured by your wife.

What happened? What was said? What words were used? Were there other people present? Something she did for you? A certain look? Think back over the length of the relationship, perhaps early on — when were some times she really succeeded in making you feel honoured?

Time to Talk

Take the next step together

Organise a time to talk with your spouse about these questions this week. Commit to understanding and meeting your spouse's needs. If you're out of practice, that's okay — now is a great time to practice again.

Tip: take a screenshot of your answers, or use your phone's "Save as PDF" / print option to keep a copy.